A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Tips, Tricks, and Rules of Engagement

Secret pleasures begin in all shapes, forms, and sizes, but out of all options on the menu, BDSM has remained an ever-popular fantasy to fulfil. Speaking of BDSM, it is no news that the practice has been around for quite a while, and yet, it is often met with certain stigma and uncertainty.

A practice that requires discipline and a set of rules to follow, BDSM can be the ultimate pleasure provider to those who like to play safely whilst simultaneously hunting after that unique thrill.

If you are a newbie in the world of BDSM, below is a detailed guide to help you navigate through the experience with flying colours.

BDSM is Versatile - Pick Your Style

The first thing anyone interested in trying BDSM should know is the kind of BDSM play they are into. Of course, sometimes many different BDSM scenarios will be put to the test in the bedroom, and yet, we all have our favourite kink. For beginners, it is best to first explore bits and pieces of the fetish on your own and then see how the same scenario can be shared with another person.

Bondage, submission, dominance, toys, pain training - the normal amount, of course - and more options are in play here. If you care to get on the BDSM wagon, start your journey by reading more on the subject, watching guided videos and tutorials and choosing a style that fits your personality and desires the best.

No Room for Rushing

A golden rule of every BDSM scenario is to never rush on your way to pleasure. Instead of assuming what the other person wants, you will have to communicate every detail of what you want to do and be met with consent by your bedroom partner. Openness to new things can seem intimidating, but when you take the time to evolve the fetish, you'll come to find that the art of BDSM lies in pacing yourself rather than chasing after that thrill with carelessness.

Foreplay First

Although BDSM sounds intense - and can be, for that matter - it does not have to make up the entirety of your sex play. In fact, for starters, you can include it as part of your foreplay only. Wax or temperature play are excellent choices to get your warmed up - and sometimes cooled down, if you want - and ensure you are on a great way to satisfaction.

Safety is Paramount

Taking adequate precautionary measures during your BDSM play can up your overall experience. This includes wearing a condom, coming up with a safeword, and discussing boundaries before jumping into the experience blindly.